The Filter
Which story are you running?
Framework 5 of 14 from Fix Your Thinking, Fix Your Life.Why this one
You heard criticism in this quiz before anybody said any. A text from the boss, a comment from someone close, and you were already replaying what you did wrong.
That's a filter: an old story turning neutral words into the hit you were braced for. It feels like perception, which is why it's hard to catch. The fix is a little awkward and it works. Ask what they meant.
You decided what they meant before they spoke. Catch it red-handed: "What I heard was ___. Is that what you said?"
Read more: I Heard an Insult Nobody Said, the essay on this framework.
Do the exercise
Every chapter ends with one exercise. Chapter 5's is the one to start with. All fourteen are in the free workbook, with room to actually do them. Drop your email and it's yours. You'll also get Loud Thoughts, my newsletter. Unsubscribe whenever you want.
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Not quite you? A quiz this short can only get so close. The one-line version of all 14 is on the frameworks page. See which one stings.