The Complaint You're Married To
Which story are you running?
Framework 3 of 14 from Fix Your Thinking, Fix Your Life.Why this one
You picked the answers where you were right. You probably were. That's what makes this one sticky.
A complaint you've told enough times starts paying you: in being right, in being the one who got wronged. It also charges you everything else. The question isn't whether you're right. It's what being right has gotten you.
The grievance that pays you in righteousness and charges you everything else. Divorce it.
Read more: Being Right Is Expensive, the essay on this framework.
Do the exercise
Every chapter ends with one exercise. Chapter 3's is the one to start with. All fourteen are in the free workbook, with room to actually do them. Drop your email and it's yours. You'll also get Loud Thoughts, my newsletter. Unsubscribe whenever you want.
More about it on the workbook page.
Not quite you? A quiz this short can only get so close. The one-line version of all 14 is on the frameworks page. See which one stings.